The Journey to Unconditional Love 🫶🏽

I was so unconsciously afraid. What did I fear? Being seen, being heard, being myself… I was afraid to be critically over analyzed by others who perhaps don’t share my ideals but who would rather slander me for being different and special in my own birthright to be as unique as I choose to be with a heart of gold!

Have you ever met someone cultivating a heart of gold?! I have within myself and others. While observing humanity also known as people watching, I have seen how people treat themselves and others and wondered this question only: is he/she born with this heart of gold or did their environment contribute to their character. In my personal experience, I believe people with hearts of gold are born to naturally pour into themselves and others because it is part of their character in this experience called life. The world needs beacons to shine our light into others lives to provide them with not just hope but joy and happiness. I don’t just walk around being super positive for no reason! I shine because when I am my authentic self, it shows others that it’s okay to love and love all that is! 

I wasn’t born into poverty but I wasn’t born into wealth either. I was born to two parents who fell in love on a whim and was produced from that love. From childhood, I watched adults be the best versions of themselves with the tools they were given and using the skills they learned from childhood into adulthood. I never judged how anyone ran their household, but I was always intrigued at how people move in the world and manage their relationships with others. I would ask myself why there are always so many conditions to the love that humans offer themselves and others. 

Here are a few examples:  

“I love you so much and would love it if you…”

“If you love me, you would…”

“How can you say you love me and do (this or that)…”

These all sound like conditions right?! Yikes! I’m not perfect, but I use to people please a lot! Way too much to count and too long to know how long I have been doing it. But why?! During childhood, one too many triggers caused a domino effect in how I processed what I “should do when” events that programmed my mental and emotional responses to people please to get certain responses from others. Yikes yet again! A very unhealthy way to live over time.I was triggered during the pandemic to awaken to my authentic self. While sitting at home for almost two years with my family, I came to so many revelations and one being who the hell have I become and where is the real me?!

Full circle, during the pandemic, I fell to my lowest trying to research everything all the time just to remember who I am and what I desire to pursue in this lifetime. One day, things came to a point of letting go and surrendering to the process of life. Many of us don’t sit with ourselves to truly get to know ourselves which can provide us with a better understanding of what we desire in life. Some people day in and day out move through their routine without a thought to the dream life they held as a child but instead living life as best they think they can but where is the love for yourself and the dreams you wished to pursue? Who are you? What do you desire?

You may be asking yourself these questions now and how it relates to conditional love. Well you are in luck because I have never felt better after remembering that I know who I am because I never left me. I recall taking a deep breathe and holding it in for 17 secs and exhaling. All at once, the depression subsided and the love returned. Was I angry or sad before, I could never pinpoint a word to describe the feeling other than depression but it could have very well been a matrix program that I unsubscribed to that we humans call depression which my higher spiritual self knew was an unauthentic version of myself. Either way, through unconditional love… I am back y’all and with a few steps to help you love yourself and others authentically by just being you!

These steps are not set in stone but have a way of gently uplifting the heart that beats in all of us! Nothing new just a fresh perspective courtesy of some of the greatest artists who have produced pro tips through their art which resonated with me: Beyoncé’s new album Renaissance and Precious Williams Linked In Newsletter #PitchQueen!

So here are the steps I took to cultivate unconditional love for myself and others:

1. Check your belief systems through mediation - everything you think you were taught in this lifetime isn’t set in stone; a thought is just a thought that can be changed once you truly know where the belief originated from.

2. Complete shadow work by introspection - leave no stone unturned; go within and observe your internal and external world which also can be completed through meditation.

3. Certainly you can assume this step: map out a way to release that which no longer serves you; many routines we have can be released and will change once you allow yourself to elevate your thoughts and actions.

4. Create and ignite your passions again! By doing this, you can begin to not just see the light but be the light for yourself and be an example for others to live their truths.

This is where I ask you to vote for me because I want to offer the world that which we all ultimately desire: world peace! I love myself and everyone in this world and it is definitely a pleasure to share my love by teaching everyone to be gentle with themselves and learn how to love yourself without the conditions the world has placed upon your external world. Slow down, breathe, and enjoy life moment by moment because we all learned in the last three years that tomorrow doesn’t exist, only the present moment.

With love ❤️ & light 💡,

LL